A couple days ago I wrote about where I went wrong in our marriage, well today it’s her turn. It is actually quite simple. Her problem is that her attempts at saving the marriage were counter productive to doing so. She now says that she never loved me like she should love a husband, but am I really to believe that if she’s been lying to me the entire marriage? Her attempts to work on the marriage is to keep her feelings from me and accept everything for what it is and try to make herself be happy with that. The only thing that method accomplishes is to make her resent the marriage. She let her resentment get so bad that the first time she tells me she is unhappy in the marriage is when she tells me that she wants to move out. Does anyone else see at least one missed step here?
My alternative to her method of dealing with the marriage is to talk to your spouse. Sounds pretty simple I know, but I’ve heard that it could work. There are hundreds of stories out there of couples that can’t stand to be around each other but by working together and making changes in their lives; they regrow Love and get that storybook ending. I don’t know if any changes we could make would make a difference in her view of the marriage or not, but why not try? We’ve already devoted over 7 years to the marriage, why not try to fix it? Unfortunately, she will not even consider fixing the marriage. I know, your probably thinking I’ve abused her or am violent or addicted to drugs or something, but I assure you I am not. I was always a good person to my wife, our kids and her son from a previous marriage.
It is apparent to me now that she has ZERO respect for marriage. She doesn’t have the heart to be married to anyone. I was her second marriage and wish I would have recognized that before I proposed. My problem now is that I Love her still and can’t turn that off after 8 years of believing that I would spend the rest of my life with her.
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